The Other Talk

Helping you have conversations with young people about alcohol and other drugs.


There are some tough topics every parent and carer need to address.

Talking about alcohol and other drugs is one of those tough topics – we call it ‘The Other Talk’.

This guide is designed to help you understand some of the common issues for young people and give you some proven tips for talking about them.

What is The Other Talk?

People normally associate ‘The Talk’ with a conversation about sex, consent and relationships.

But there is another important talk that every family should have. ‘The Other Talk’ - an open conversation about alcohol and other drugs – is an important part of preparing a young person for situations where they may be around alcohol and other drugs.

You can start this conversation from as early as eight years old, to give them the right information and attitudes before they go to high school.

In fact, broaching this topic early means you can establish an understanding that there are no silly questions and no off-limit topics.

mother and teenaged daughter at home
  1. Influencing young people
  2. The facts about alcohol and other drugs
    - Young people, alcohol and the law
    - Young people and drug use
  3. The party dilemma
  4. Hosting a safe teen party

How you tackle this topic is important because:

  • Research shows parents’ attitudes and actions have a huge impact on a young person’s drinking behaviour.1-6
  • Your rules around alcohol use can decrease the likelihood of your young person engaging in risky drinking.7
  • Your decision not to allow your young person to drink is backed by laws in most states and territories.
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